Relationships are complicated and it is better for both parties to know that things will not always be rosy hence they should be well prepared. Taking your relationship for granted is a sure way to make sure it is destroyed, it is upon both parties to regularly take time off for themselves to catch up on things, to reincarnate things that make them want to stay together and love each other more.
There are some people however, that do not want to help in making things better which is much worse because they are aware that their relationship is drowning but do not want to take action to save it. Another case may be that both partners are willing to work things out but have no idea as to how they can do that, in some cases they end up making things worse. With this in mind, it is important for such couples or people in whatever form of relationship to seek professional help so that they can establish the right best ways to solve problems and in the shortest time possible so that they can get back to being happy.
Some of the problems that can be solved at couples therapy include disagreements when deciding the best methods to raise kids, boundaries being crossed by other family members such as parents, problems when getting along and those that arise from poor communication. Most problems are easily solvable and usually have no serious consequences, however, finance and work issues are known to completely ruin a relationship because they have a habit of giving birth to a chain of other problems that burry the relationship so deep it cannot be redeemed.
A therapist most important job is to teach the parties how to properly deal with all these problems and pressures without destroying their relationship. They are also supposed to make both partners understand that they have the ability to hurt each other and should act in ways that will minimize that hurt or avoid it at all costs.
Therapists should make their position a comfortable place where the partners feel safe revealing any destructive behavior that they might be having so that the problem can be identified at the root and solved. It is advisable that couples take through any small problem that arises there and then because it is a characteristic of many failed marriages for things to go about unsolved which later leads to bigger problems.